my friend was in very general terms telling me his life-derailing issues hinting them as the cause for his sinking into the whirlpool of alcohol. he paused, because he knew i knew.
there are two approaches to the issue. which is the bullock pulling the cart? is it because one is facing "life-derailing issues" one is plunging into drinks, or, are the "life-derailing issues" an invention of one's urge to sink into the whirlpool?
i had an experience when i thought i was dying. it was a very pleasurable experience, sinking, sinking, as in a dream. a friend kept slapping me on the cheek to revive me. i was irritated he was doing it. all one wanted was to sink into the sweetness of the sinking.
it is like that with drinking too. sometimes one needs a friend to slap you hard on the cheek to come out of the nonsense.